The game of name - Pleasing

In the Marathon of Name, the torch of Pleasing is in the Hand.
A person, always trying to please eveybody around,
Try to be great by sacrificing his own happiness for the well being of other (Ridiculous),
Try to be superior by caring for other(Foolishness),
Try to be weight lifter by shouldering the burden of others(Rubbish).
But pleasing is like Whitewashing a house.
Untill you keep doing things what others like, people forget how much you sacrifice for them.
Like after a while there is a layer of dust settled at the wall, which again needs white washing.
It means in order to please others keep on putting the oil of sacrifices in the torch of Pleasing.
But in this Marathon, nobody ever won, sooner or later,
The participant is left tired in the Midway,
In complete darkness because the oil of the torch is exhausted completely,
In the utter suffering of loneliness and meanness of the peoples,
And the most amazing fact is that, peoples are those whom a person thinks are my whole world
At the end, a person combeled to think, "why I did all that?"
I read somewhere " It is good to earn a bad name and live a good life than earn a good name and live a Bad life"
True na!!!

Aaj Main Badi Ho Gayi

My little angel is Two year old now

She grew up in a cute, beautiful, intelligent , hard working, Loving and most important CARING.

You might be thinking what are the words I am using for her are too big for the age of her, but she deserve it.

CUTE - Because it is god gifted to her,

BEAUTIFUL - As I described,

INTELLIGENT - She is a fast learner, any thing once told will be saved in the memory bank with definition and process and any deviation from it will not be allowed. Then she will say -

बोली न इसको ऐसे नहीं करते हैं, मम्मी ने बोली थी, हांsssssssss

HARDWORKING - She like doing her work on her own, like putting her utensils to wash basins, cloths on place, shoes on place and also help me in my work as much as she can. When I say no, she replies,

"आज मैं बड़ी हो गयी" and if she is unable to do something, she comes to me and say

"मम्मी आप कर दो न मैं अभी छोटी हूँ|"

LOVING and CARING - While I do my work, she come to me and say, "मैं आपकी HELP करूं"

A small incidence took place

I was sleeping and she was playing, I slept without taking my blanket.

After 5 min she came and spread her blanket (Her blanket is very important to her because she can sleep without me but not her blanket) over me, without thinking what I wil have.

I was so touched, that how much she love and care for me that she has given me her most precious thing of life. And thought came to mind

"आज तू सच में बड़ी हो गई"

Naam - Ek Pehchan ya???????

Some one said , नाम में क्या रखा है?

And instantly the thought came to my mind is, "Everything".

Do you ever thought what is the impact of name in someone's personality and Life?

I think like few things which are decided by God and not we, name is also one among that.

Slowly person's thinking, behavior, character bear the characterstics of it name.

"NAME" - which create an instant picture of a person in stranger's mind.

A picture which is very much inspired by the characterstics of the name of the person.

At times it is positive and at times negative.

It help to give person, a beginning.

And good beginning leads to work half done.

The whole run in the world is for name sake.

A person can fulfill his necessity easily but, he keep on running to establish his name in the society.

This marathon race does not ends with the establishment of the name.

The next stage is to add fame with the name.

And then to maintain it to the height.

The passion for the fame make a man blind and deaf, that neither he can see the pain nor listen to the heart of those who are supporting him in this endless marathon race.

Sometimes I wonder - WHY? THIS ENDLESS AND HOPELESS MARATHON.

Why a person cant stop bothering about his name and society, instead think about the happiness of the near and dear one. Don't ask them to sacrifice their wishes for name sake.

Imagine - How beautiful this world will be without the NAME factor.

But it can't happen because NAME is EVERYHTING

Are You Newly Engaged?

Surprised? Why this lady always have Quesiton?

Because Life is a search for answer of Questions, So many questions.

So, here comes the next.

Actually right now there are newly engaged couples around me.

Living in the clouds of dreams,

So happy,

So much in Love,

It seems as if made for each other,

Can see only good things.

As if , were waiting for so many births to meet each other.

LOVE IS ON AIR

Have you ever thought, why the heart felt that way after engagement?

The Heart, which always waiting for true love, all of sudden feel like the search is over, as if the picture of the beloved is complete now.

Heart, which is like a "wild horse", unable to control, free, strong, want to wander as per his own will, whom more you want to control, more it will rebel.

Heart, whose nature is rebeltion, When there use to be restriction, that time also it can't be controlled, then, think what happen when the wild horse is free.

God!!!

It will get crazzzzy with happiness,

Run in any direction without restriction,

Will talk with air and clouds, unable to land on Earth.

Keep on running till unable to give sufficient air to the lungs.

It is same with the Heart.

But hold on!

Don't let it run till its last breath, otherwise Life and marriage will lose its charm.

Let it pick up speed, but with steadiness, so the horse can run long race and not a short one.

Keep mind open with heart because heart won't have mind.

ALL THE BEST.

Daughter a things associated with Name and Fame?

In Indian society, we always watch the same scene as in the serial -"12/24 Karol Bagh"

Daughter ready to sacrifice , actually not ready instead she scarifies her feelings, emotions and happiness for the sake of family, which she thinks is her duty because they gave birth to her, bring her up and so she owe them, Do the boy thinks the same?

Since childhood, Parents put in her mind that,

" WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH"(शायद सच)

You are the replica of godess (most of the case "Laxmi"- यहाँ भी स्वार्थ!!!)

Its only your happiness which we are concerned about and nothing else is important in our life. (Really?)

But we request you one thing, please never do any such thing which will be a dark spot in our name and fame. (अब आया ऊँठ पहाड़ के नीचे)
Otherwise we will die. ( अहसानों के नीचे दब गयी बेचारी)

If anything happen which is against families name and fame, What about your younger brother and sister future? (emotional Blackmailing)

And it really works. The daughter shoulder the burden of carrying name and fame of the family.

But I never understood, whether parents are worried about their daughters Life and Happiness or their prestige. Because if they care for daughters wishes then never ask her to give sacrifices, and if they concern about their prestige ask them to sacrifice their daughter's life then where is the LOVE?

GOD!!! What parents really want?

May be the return to give life her life, bringing her up, educating her and then marrying her.

There is one more question in my mind, If everything is given by them, what about the Karma chakra which says everyone gets everything because of its own fate?

I think parents must think once again what they have given to their daughter and in return what they are asking for, at the same time compare it with a boy' s thinking and what they put in his mind.

Everything Happens for Good

I have always been a firm believer of EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR GOOD.

And from time to time fate proved me correct.

I think in everybody's life it happens,

what is required is vision to see the glass is half full and not half empty. Person who see glass is half full can always learn from what happened and move on. And the person who only see glass as half empty always stick up in a place and can not fight for the betterment.

I know so many people argue how can this happen? If u fell down in a pathway, then how can it is good. But it is good. Because you learn keep your eyes on the pathway also so that you should not fell down from where u can not come out. One suffering always make u cautious of another , also make u brave to be prepared if u miss it.

If someone betrayed your trust, then also it is your fault, because u don't know whom to trust and whom not, Learn from it,

Learn whom you should trust and whom u should rely.

Don't give anybody next, the chance to betray you. So the glass is half full.

Always there is a way out for everything. Just keep your eyes open and the door is open.

Learn from your mistakes and move on

It is a personal experience.

Best Friend

Friendship, the most beautiful relationship between two person,

without the competition of give and take.

Without the feeling of mine,

Without the smell of meanness,

Without the touch of shrewdness.

Without the intention of return.

Everybody wants, there should be a person in Life,

Whose name comes first in the mind when u need someone.

Who is the person you can rely blindly

Whom you feel is the one who understand your feelings as they are,

Who have faith on you, that you are right,

Who won't question your intention because he know you well,

In front of whom you won't hesitate to speak your heart.

With whom you want to share each and every thing happened be it happiness or sorrow.

Who believe in you.

A person who raise his hand for help without thinking for a moment that what will be the result

When you are in a Quagmire(दलदल), he will give his hand for help knowing that my hand will get dirty and my cloths will get spotted with the mud. Even this quagmire can take him in it.

The quagmire of situations, emotions and conditions, which is worse than the quagmire of sand.

because the quagmire of sand will take life in one instance but this one will won't let the person die but keep on suffer.

The only person who can do this is the BEST FRIEND.

Think do you have such person in Life???

Thank God I have One.

Treasure of Inspiration pass on

After I cleared First level of my studied, I was 18.

My achievement was not a very great one, but it was after great difficulties, because I belong to a orthodox joint family where girls are associated more with name and fame than considering them as living being. So my victory was great,

Then there was a meeting of Lions club , where they asked me how I managed to do that?

I asked my father to answer because he was the one who pass on the treasure of words and inspiration to me which was given to him by my grandfather, when he was pursuing his exam. He was having tears in his eyes .

He felt, in any case I will not be through this exam. I thought the same when I was preparing for my exams. My father wrote me a letter which say -

Dear,

We bless you for your success,

you know I was in same trauma when I was with my traning as you are now. When people love us so much and rely on us, so much, we feel the fear of putting them down. We feel can we will prove them correct? But this is the moment where you have to work hard and not think about the result. Give your 100% and for rest, god is there. This is what my father said to me when I was in my tranning because I felt I can't do it.

Just put your efforts and forget the result, even if you will flunck you will taste the failure which will enhance the taste of success and the urge to achieve it. Thus you are at no loss, only profit.

Both the sides of the coin, you are the winner.

And I know you will win.

With love

Your father

And believe I WON.

Relationship - Marriage

"Marriage or relationship is a dance in which two lives go with the rhythm in full swing, holding each other with passion, caring each other with love. Unknowingly matching the foot steps of each other, without hurting. So much engrosed in each other that the rest of the world get stagnant for them"

Wow!!! Marriage is so beautiful with Love

Love and Marriage.

When they compliment each other, Life is as fresh as the morning dew.

When both of them walk hand in hand they get unite and become the "great wall" which stand still and strong infront of the world, All the problems and difficulties get tired of them and step back with faliur.

Together they are so strong and elastic. Can expand, shrink, hard, soft, rough and velvety, everything.

Every couple, about to enter into this relationship or those who are new in it think like this.

Wait a minute, but what is the reality?????

Is it that beautiful as the un experienced persons think ???

The answer is simple "No".

Marriage is not only a sweet dish, instead a complete meal,

Where there are so many dishes like so many people to affect the couple's life,

With so many tastes like so many situations to test with,

With so many pickles and chutneys like feelings and emotions to enhance its flavors.

Love is dream land which talks only about two people in Love.

Where as, Marriage is the Land of reality which say Love is not everything, it is a basic ingredient of the dish of LIFE, It need the help of others flavors also, like

Trust,

Companionship,

Friendship,

Caring ,

Importance,

Support,

Mutual understanding,

Help

And one of the most important thing is keeping the ego out of it (actually here roots of the problem lies)

Trust me!!!

Koshish means Keep Trying

Can u define what is KOSHISH (कोशिश) ?

Many people say there is nothing like trying, either you can do it or not.

If u want to do it, you can do it, otherwise Koshish is just an excuse.

This comment really made me think

Is koshish only a philosophy? How?

I think "Koshish" is a process to achieve a goal which is over and above a person's "Ability and Power"

Because, there lies a question, whether we can do it or not?

When there is fear that we can not do it, there comes the philosophy of "trying" before giving up.

कोशिश एक प्रयत्न है वो करने का जो हमारी शक्ति और समर्थ से परे है,

कोशिश एक डोर है उम्मीद और नउमीदी के बीच में,

कोशिश एक आशा है कामयाबी और नाकामयाबी के बीच में,

कोशिश, हिम्मत है निराशा को आशा में बदलने की |

A middle class Indian can well define "Koshish"

Because, foundation of a Middle class family lies in Keep trying to achieve what is out of their league .

Who fight every day for their basic requirements and still hope for a better tomorrow and keep trying to work for it.

Actually koshish is a process to increase our Ability and Power towards our Goal.

Once we achieve our goal then again the goal shifts itself to a higher degree,

Where again you need to work to increase your strength and stamina.

Think of a runner up in a 1000 mt. race who lost with just a few seconds.

Does it mean he hadn't put his effort to it , if no then what is the reason of his failure?

How one will console him? Keep trying, don't lose hope, next time you will win,

And he will stand up with new hope and work hard to increase his stamina for another few seconds,

Thus his journey from this race to next race carried by KOSHISH means keep trying.

I believe that every thing in this world lies in Hope and Keep trying.

If Koshish will not be there then every body will jump into a decision, " I can do it or I can't do it"

There will be no rewards for Hard work, Honesty, sufferings to achieve etc. and achievements will not be important as they are with the philosophy of Koshish.

Imagine the world without Koshish, there will be,

No hardwork,

No sufferings to achieve,

No importance of Achievements,

No faliure ,

No Learnings,

Thus no refinement of skills.

Which leads to no improvements,

And the world will get stagnant.

Replica of a Lotus

Lotus - a beautiful flower , whose habitat is mud and water, it grow in it, flourish in it. But still untouched by them. Don't allow single drop of them to stick on it.

Even the sweet fragnances of the rich Pink flower have no smell of Mud and water.

I feel my angel is like, "Replica of a Lotus"

Smiling with the freshness of morning dew,

Standing proudly as winner on the shoulders of the world which is like "MUD" which Smells bad, Looks bad, One who get into it will be pulled in by all the evils, who have control of it.

My Angel, looking down with giggle at the World saying -

"You have made everybody as bad as you are, but look at me, I took birth between you, but u can not even touch me."

My freshness, innocence and selfless love is like drop of Elixir (अमृत) of life to those who are

So tired of Life,

Lost hope of justice,

Unaware of the new birth of the rays of goodness.

This world is a beautiful place, trust me!

Always a single ray of hope have the power of shattering the darkness of shrewdness and selfishness .

So, don't lose hope.

I am within you, Look at me.

When I look at her, all my worries run away, and I feel that a my heart whisper in my ears,

Wow! She is so pure,

So gentle,

The velvety touch,

The sparkling eyes,

The smiling lips,

Ah! It seems she is holding your hand and taking you for a walk on the clouds in her country.

She says in her wordless speech,

Mom! Why are u looking at me surprisingly?

I am a part of you, came back, so you live you childhood once again in me,

I am taking you on the tour, how you were in your childhood,

I came in your world, so that you should not be lost in this mud,

Look at me, "I AM YOUR RAY OF HOPE"

Kagaz aur Kalam - Best friends

There are millions and millions of books, literature and vedas. They take us to the glorious past and astonishing future in imagination with there words.

What inspire a person to write something?

What make a person to pick a pen and paint the picture in imagination with there powerful words?

"WORDS" the best way to express. Everybody can not Paint. But everybody can write Like I do.

I think in everybody's life there is something which is inspiring, which makes him think and think, When these thoughts take control over him, the person starts putting things on words. To relieve oneself from the burden of thinking.

Actually, I feel that way.

I write,

When I get extremely happy,

When I get extremely sad,

When I am proud of being a mother,

When I get irritated,

When I get sarcastic, that I know, if I will not relieve my self, I will hurt someone.

When there is fight of thoughts in my mind, Mind becomes the land of war. And the two forces are Positive thoughts and negative thoughts. Mind which work with a steady speed, all of a sudden starts running like a speed racer car. To gain lost control over it I put my thoughts in words.

Why so? Why only write and not speak?

Because when u speak u need a patient listener, who understand your thoughts and feelings the same way as they are in your heart, who have faith in you. But this is impossible. At that moment, only pen and paper posses all the qualities of best friends

A best friend, who understand what is bothering you,

Who listen to you and not question you,

Who understands you better that you do your self

Who take all your worries and let you take sound sleep and restful days,

Who keep all your secrets in it and never utter a word.

Isn't Kagaz and Kalam are the best friends of everybody.