The game of name - Pleasing

In the Marathon of Name, the torch of Pleasing is in the Hand.
A person, always trying to please eveybody around,
Try to be great by sacrificing his own happiness for the well being of other (Ridiculous),
Try to be superior by caring for other(Foolishness),
Try to be weight lifter by shouldering the burden of others(Rubbish).
But pleasing is like Whitewashing a house.
Untill you keep doing things what others like, people forget how much you sacrifice for them.
Like after a while there is a layer of dust settled at the wall, which again needs white washing.
It means in order to please others keep on putting the oil of sacrifices in the torch of Pleasing.
But in this Marathon, nobody ever won, sooner or later,
The participant is left tired in the Midway,
In complete darkness because the oil of the torch is exhausted completely,
In the utter suffering of loneliness and meanness of the peoples,
And the most amazing fact is that, peoples are those whom a person thinks are my whole world
At the end, a person combeled to think, "why I did all that?"
I read somewhere " It is good to earn a bad name and live a good life than earn a good name and live a Bad life"
True na!!!

Aaj Main Badi Ho Gayi

My little angel is Two year old now

She grew up in a cute, beautiful, intelligent , hard working, Loving and most important CARING.

You might be thinking what are the words I am using for her are too big for the age of her, but she deserve it.

CUTE - Because it is god gifted to her,

BEAUTIFUL - As I described,

INTELLIGENT - She is a fast learner, any thing once told will be saved in the memory bank with definition and process and any deviation from it will not be allowed. Then she will say -

बोली न इसको ऐसे नहीं करते हैं, मम्मी ने बोली थी, हांsssssssss

HARDWORKING - She like doing her work on her own, like putting her utensils to wash basins, cloths on place, shoes on place and also help me in my work as much as she can. When I say no, she replies,

"आज मैं बड़ी हो गयी" and if she is unable to do something, she comes to me and say

"मम्मी आप कर दो न मैं अभी छोटी हूँ|"

LOVING and CARING - While I do my work, she come to me and say, "मैं आपकी HELP करूं"

A small incidence took place

I was sleeping and she was playing, I slept without taking my blanket.

After 5 min she came and spread her blanket (Her blanket is very important to her because she can sleep without me but not her blanket) over me, without thinking what I wil have.

I was so touched, that how much she love and care for me that she has given me her most precious thing of life. And thought came to mind

"आज तू सच में बड़ी हो गई"

Naam - Ek Pehchan ya???????

Some one said , नाम में क्या रखा है?

And instantly the thought came to my mind is, "Everything".

Do you ever thought what is the impact of name in someone's personality and Life?

I think like few things which are decided by God and not we, name is also one among that.

Slowly person's thinking, behavior, character bear the characterstics of it name.

"NAME" - which create an instant picture of a person in stranger's mind.

A picture which is very much inspired by the characterstics of the name of the person.

At times it is positive and at times negative.

It help to give person, a beginning.

And good beginning leads to work half done.

The whole run in the world is for name sake.

A person can fulfill his necessity easily but, he keep on running to establish his name in the society.

This marathon race does not ends with the establishment of the name.

The next stage is to add fame with the name.

And then to maintain it to the height.

The passion for the fame make a man blind and deaf, that neither he can see the pain nor listen to the heart of those who are supporting him in this endless marathon race.

Sometimes I wonder - WHY? THIS ENDLESS AND HOPELESS MARATHON.

Why a person cant stop bothering about his name and society, instead think about the happiness of the near and dear one. Don't ask them to sacrifice their wishes for name sake.

Imagine - How beautiful this world will be without the NAME factor.

But it can't happen because NAME is EVERYHTING

Are You Newly Engaged?

Surprised? Why this lady always have Quesiton?

Because Life is a search for answer of Questions, So many questions.

So, here comes the next.

Actually right now there are newly engaged couples around me.

Living in the clouds of dreams,

So happy,

So much in Love,

It seems as if made for each other,

Can see only good things.

As if , were waiting for so many births to meet each other.

LOVE IS ON AIR

Have you ever thought, why the heart felt that way after engagement?

The Heart, which always waiting for true love, all of sudden feel like the search is over, as if the picture of the beloved is complete now.

Heart, which is like a "wild horse", unable to control, free, strong, want to wander as per his own will, whom more you want to control, more it will rebel.

Heart, whose nature is rebeltion, When there use to be restriction, that time also it can't be controlled, then, think what happen when the wild horse is free.

God!!!

It will get crazzzzy with happiness,

Run in any direction without restriction,

Will talk with air and clouds, unable to land on Earth.

Keep on running till unable to give sufficient air to the lungs.

It is same with the Heart.

But hold on!

Don't let it run till its last breath, otherwise Life and marriage will lose its charm.

Let it pick up speed, but with steadiness, so the horse can run long race and not a short one.

Keep mind open with heart because heart won't have mind.

ALL THE BEST.

Daughter a things associated with Name and Fame?

In Indian society, we always watch the same scene as in the serial -"12/24 Karol Bagh"

Daughter ready to sacrifice , actually not ready instead she scarifies her feelings, emotions and happiness for the sake of family, which she thinks is her duty because they gave birth to her, bring her up and so she owe them, Do the boy thinks the same?

Since childhood, Parents put in her mind that,

" WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH"(शायद सच)

You are the replica of godess (most of the case "Laxmi"- यहाँ भी स्वार्थ!!!)

Its only your happiness which we are concerned about and nothing else is important in our life. (Really?)

But we request you one thing, please never do any such thing which will be a dark spot in our name and fame. (अब आया ऊँठ पहाड़ के नीचे)
Otherwise we will die. ( अहसानों के नीचे दब गयी बेचारी)

If anything happen which is against families name and fame, What about your younger brother and sister future? (emotional Blackmailing)

And it really works. The daughter shoulder the burden of carrying name and fame of the family.

But I never understood, whether parents are worried about their daughters Life and Happiness or their prestige. Because if they care for daughters wishes then never ask her to give sacrifices, and if they concern about their prestige ask them to sacrifice their daughter's life then where is the LOVE?

GOD!!! What parents really want?

May be the return to give life her life, bringing her up, educating her and then marrying her.

There is one more question in my mind, If everything is given by them, what about the Karma chakra which says everyone gets everything because of its own fate?

I think parents must think once again what they have given to their daughter and in return what they are asking for, at the same time compare it with a boy' s thinking and what they put in his mind.

Everything Happens for Good

I have always been a firm believer of EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR GOOD.

And from time to time fate proved me correct.

I think in everybody's life it happens,

what is required is vision to see the glass is half full and not half empty. Person who see glass is half full can always learn from what happened and move on. And the person who only see glass as half empty always stick up in a place and can not fight for the betterment.

I know so many people argue how can this happen? If u fell down in a pathway, then how can it is good. But it is good. Because you learn keep your eyes on the pathway also so that you should not fell down from where u can not come out. One suffering always make u cautious of another , also make u brave to be prepared if u miss it.

If someone betrayed your trust, then also it is your fault, because u don't know whom to trust and whom not, Learn from it,

Learn whom you should trust and whom u should rely.

Don't give anybody next, the chance to betray you. So the glass is half full.

Always there is a way out for everything. Just keep your eyes open and the door is open.

Learn from your mistakes and move on

It is a personal experience.

Best Friend

Friendship, the most beautiful relationship between two person,

without the competition of give and take.

Without the feeling of mine,

Without the smell of meanness,

Without the touch of shrewdness.

Without the intention of return.

Everybody wants, there should be a person in Life,

Whose name comes first in the mind when u need someone.

Who is the person you can rely blindly

Whom you feel is the one who understand your feelings as they are,

Who have faith on you, that you are right,

Who won't question your intention because he know you well,

In front of whom you won't hesitate to speak your heart.

With whom you want to share each and every thing happened be it happiness or sorrow.

Who believe in you.

A person who raise his hand for help without thinking for a moment that what will be the result

When you are in a Quagmire(दलदल), he will give his hand for help knowing that my hand will get dirty and my cloths will get spotted with the mud. Even this quagmire can take him in it.

The quagmire of situations, emotions and conditions, which is worse than the quagmire of sand.

because the quagmire of sand will take life in one instance but this one will won't let the person die but keep on suffer.

The only person who can do this is the BEST FRIEND.

Think do you have such person in Life???

Thank God I have One.